According to a conventional relationship, being supportive during times of loss and sadness is a good way to strengthen  a relationship bond, however, celebrating good news with each other may mean even more.

Research shows that the happiest pairs are those who respond positively to their partners’ successes. And to strengthen your relationship more, you and your partner should break the following rules:

• Show that you’re psyched. Try to give him emotional applause when he mentions getting a compliment and appreciate how he deals with annoying situations. According to clinical director for the Council Relationships in Philadelphia Michele Marsh, PhD, says that, “Interpersonal conflicts can be extra stressful for guys, so hearing that they handled one well can be very rewarding.”

Ask for details in order to make your response resonate beyond a pat “congrats” like “How did you find out?”, reaffirm how hard he worked on something, “Your hours of studying really paid off!” or you can escalate his excitement by pointing out a specific trait of his that played a part “I’m not surprised. You’re so tenacious!”

By acknowledging your partner’s participation in the larger picture shows another level of understanding, otherwise, it could sabotage things.

• Get him boost you. You need a boost too. If a guy isn’t effusive about her partner’s achievements, it could be that he doesn’t know how valuable his support is. Give him a clue.

When something big is brewing, give him notice like by counting down the days or just say, “Something great happened, and I want to celebrate it with you.” That way  he’ll know that it is a big deal. And when he does share a success, let him know that you appreciated him being so happy for you.

If you say he did something right, he’ll remember that and be more likely to repeat it,” says Marsh. However, avoid appearing needy because most guys hate that.

• Why it’s so powerful? According to clinical director for the Council Relationships in Philadelphia Michele Marsh, PhD, favorable feedback is better than just to flatter. “It validates accomplishments, but it also validates your relationship by showing that you get what’s important to each other.”

Couples who weren’t thrilled by each other’s good fortune were more likely to split up. Talk to your man about what occurred lets him relive a bit and vice versa. If you’re not stroked by what your guy considers a win, it conveys that you may be jealous, threatened or not interested.